4 Steps To A More Confident You

 This week, as in every week, I notice a theme, something that all clients seem to speak about, in my office. I’m not sure if there’s a particular reason for this. Perhaps the winds of Minnesota bring ideas and thoughts to all who come to my office. More likely is that each week I hear something common among those whom I see. Whatever the reason, I find it useful to think about these things and have decided to share some commonalities that all seem to experience.  The reason for this is that often times we feel isolated in our own thoughts. We assume that no one else feels this way. In a recent study researchers looked at how comparing ourselves to others contributes to feels of depression. Specifically, they looked at Facebook. But before we go further, I’m not saying Facebook causes depression only that it’s a place that can be studied as there are 1.7 billion users world wide. What they found is because people post mostly positive statements and photos about their life, others who view those posts often feel less than or down. But why is this? Why should looking at other’s lives cause us to question our own life AND then feel like we’re lacking? It’s a complicated answer, but one aspect of it is that we lack confidence and self-esteem, at least in some parts of our life. So let’s start at the beginning. In order to feel confident, you must have a solid core. I like to compare this to weight lifting. In order for us to lift weights, or even get up...

Mental illness IS a physical illness

This week a german airline pilot, Andreas Lubitz, apparently intentionally crashed the jet he was flying, killing himself and all 149 passengers on board. The world wide response has been one of grief and sadness, appropriately. Questions have been asked about how and why this happened. And leaders from around the world have called this the saddest day. They have also accused the pilot of being crazy. But what’s the implication of that. It seems that they are linking his depression with crazy. And if this is the case, that’s a problem for many reasons, not the least of which is it perpetuates the stigma of depression. What is depression? Perhaps it’s important to start with what depression is and isn’t before the term crazy gets bandied about. Depression is a disease, the same as cancer or diabetes, that affects the brain of a person which than causes issues with weight, thinking, sleep, and and decision making ability. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), more than 350 million people world-wide suffer from depression, it is the leading cause of disability world wide, and is a major contributor to the global burden of disease.  But just what is depression? Depression, according the the DSM-V, has the following symptoms, to name a few: depressed mood most of the day, nearly every day, diminished interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, activities most of the day, nearly every day, Insomnia or hypersomnia nearly every day, psychomotor agitation or retardation nearly every day, fatigue or loss of energy nearly every day, symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational...

Welcome to Being.

Many years ago, as I was starting out in private practice, I was struggling with what to call my business. The more I thought about it, the harder it got. It felt a bit like the more I tried, the more elusive it became. However, when I stopped trying so hard, giving my mind a rest, it came to me. Being.   Often times when I’m working with clients I hear how much they, as well as me, want to “do” something, anything, to help others or ourselves. I hear about the constant drive to be moving, whether away from or towards something. I’m sure we can all relate to this in someway or another. A great example is rush-hour. Next time you’re stuck in traffic take a look to see how many cars are exiting to the off-ramps. It’s a natural drive to want to be moving. The thought is often that as long as I’m moving, I’m getting somewhere, and faster. While this may seem true, and may end up being true, it is unknown when the decision to do something is made.   My thinking, in terms of anxiety or depression, is that sometimes it’s best to just be. Sitting down, taking stock of what is and what isn’t, what one has and one’s reality, while being still, can provide more relieve than feeing one must be in constant movement. We also can’t forget that being is still an action. The word be is a verb. It is an action, just like do. And to that end, Being felt like a perfect name for a therapy clinic where...

Our new blog!

Here you will find not only information about Being and the therapists who work here, but also resources and information about mental health, nutrition, exercise, and a variety of topics that can impact your life such as sleep, vitamins, technology, and even animals. Each week we will post about a subject that is directly related to your well-being as well as links to more to learn more about the subject and how you can use the information to start to live the life you want! Blog topics will include: Anxiety; Career; Children; Depression; Divorce; Exercise; Marriage; Mental Health; Money; Nutrition; Sleep; Stress;...

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